Friday, August 12, 2011

Tips on becoming more social and easier to converse with?

It's cool just be relaxed a bit and here me out. This will be easy for you because the person you are seeing is a friend. When you have a genuine love or care for a person the conversation is easier because you don't have to worry about "walking on egg shell". That expression means you don't have to worry about how you say things because of fear of offending the other person. The only thing that makes a conversation quick is "yes" and "no". When you talk and ask things like (how are you doing? How are the family or friends? How was the trip? What's been going on lately?) There questions usually require mare than a yes or no. Some response with i'm fine (and might add more) but i'm hungry or don't feel good...which can then lead to you asking...what do you want to eat or what's hurting? What this is...is a conversation cause and effect. But most importantly it's from listening. Listening to what the other person was to say and responding to it. when you have a conversation you just speak naturally what comes to your mind about a subject but if there is something you say that can't be understood you would nee to explain why you say it...like (this just happened to me)...I work in a condo and met a new resident and in the conversation I asked "Are you going to school?" He said no he was working. But I'm not going to assume that he knew why I asked him that so I explained. "We have a lot of college students that move in to the building to go to law school near by. So in a conversation and you wan to ask or make a statement and it's not unclear why you are asking or making the statement then it's good to explain why "briefly" though. I hoped this helped. When you care just ask normal questions since the general ones are already done...who already know names and etc...but what's work like and life where you are know and other things...then listen to what they say and ask or comment about what the other person said. This can lead to whatever...and then when questions are asked to you answer them or sometimes ask why the persona asked that question...so on and so on...you getthe picture...I hope this has helped...

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